Never Let A Day Go By Without Happiness!  10 Things I’ve Learned & Some Happy Techniques!

Never Let A Day Go By Without Happiness! 10 Things I’ve Learned & Some Happy Techniques!

What do I mean by never letting a day go by without happiness? I mean just that! NEVER let a day go by with you!. PERIOD! POINT BLANK! We all live in this life and for what it’s worth we walk through it day by day and we have a choice we can choose to live happy life everyday or we can choose to live the life by means of our circumstances! If you have been on this earth more than a few days, you already know the circumstances we have in life on a daily basis fluctuate from one moment to the next.

There is not a day in our life will we will not run into a circumstance that makes us us want to laugh, cry, scream, jump for joy, drive us up a wall, make us super dope angry, do back flips, hurt our feelings, or make us want to just throw in the towel and give up! This is how how life is, it’s an everyday rat race where good things, bad things, happy things and sad things all happen at some point. It’s our own little emotional roller coaster and most of the time we cannot control what the circumstance is that is going to occur, we can merely control our emotions.

Living with MS only amplifies those emotions, because OK days can become bad days and bad days can become worse days and I think you get the picture here. It can start physical with symptoms that feel awkward or painful and turn into a mental battle than feels like we are fighting a fight that cannot be won. Here is where I implement mental fortitude. I have to tell myself what I want and how I will make my day look. Don’t get it twisted, some days I don’t alway succeed at the perfect day, but what it does do it allow me to get the best out of every day, even the worse days.

Over my lifetime I’ve dealt with a lot of pain and turmoil. Unfortunately, when I was younger I didn’t deal with it very well and I hurt many people and myself in more ways that I could begin to type in this blog. Maybe I’ll share some of my stories in the future. Long story short, I was angry, sad and hurt most of my young and young adult life. I wore that pain like a badge, not necessarily of honor, but more like a warning to everyone around me…I’M DAMAGED, BACK UP. Let me tell you how heavy that badge became. OMGoooosh! It was like carrying around the entire world on my shoulders. It took me a long time to realize no matter what I was going through, LITERALLY no matter how bad the circumstance was in my life, there were a few things that would never change and once I learned them it was like I dropped that heavy CRAPTASTIC world and was toting around a feather.

  1. If I couldn’t control it, I couldn’t let it control me, so release it
  2. As bad as it seemed, I always learned something from it…ALWAYS
  3. 99.5% of the time, I learned there was something GOOD in EVERY circumstance
  4. If it involved a person treating me bad, me moving on in happiness and succeeding was icing on the cake and they couldn’t ever take that away from me
  5. MY LIFE…MY RULES!!! 😝(Insert nanny nanny boo boo face/dance here – – LOL) I will not dwell in negative
  6. When you love ❤️yourself, deeply and truly, no one person can take it from you
  7. The past is where it should be, walking forward is ok, looking back to teach others what not to do is the only reason to go back
  8. Laughter IS REAL medicine…No one can prescribe it to you but it’s available at all times
  9. Dancing to your favorite song/music will change your mood 💯% (even if you cannot dance)💁
  10. Letting go of things and people is more liberating than anyone can ever know. Remove the clutter, YES some people are clutter…they are no longer a necessary part of your world any longer to include some family members

I know, I know, I know, easier said than done! I can already hear it in your mind as you read. You probably said it out loud. How do I just CHOOSE to be happy? It’s a process. You have to train your brain to react differently when you’ve been doing what you’ve been doing for so long. Think of it like this. Ever been driving down the street and someone cuts you off or is driving super slow when you are trying to get somewhere in a hurry? Most of us immediately react with a negative response. YELLING, SCREAMING, CURSING, HONKING. How dare that person cut me off or drive so slow???? First, see how ironic this is right? We get mad in both instances! One they are driving fast and crazy and in the other way too slow. In both we have the same reaction and in both the car in front cannot hear us – Unless we honk, and yet we somehow feel vindicated in our one-sided blast of obscenities like it will change the situation. Guess what? It won’t! Now, imagine if we didn’t have that type of reaction? What if we thought, I wonder what that person is going through to make them do that? Maybe they are rushing to a hospital or to a job interview and if they don’t get the job they’ll lose their house. Maybe they are dealing with a terrible situation and don’t even realize they are driving so slow, but just in deep thought.

Strange to think about I know! We snap to negative because we are in our own worlds, in our little bubbles, worrying about our own selves. Sadly, we have been that person before, accidently cutting someone off, or driving distracted for one reason or another. Giving the “I’m sorry or I apologetic” wave 🤚 as they pass with their middle finger waving hello to us as they pass.🤦‍♀️

Simply put it’s MINDSET. You have to train yourself to think about before you act, or think before you allow yourself to fall down the rabbit hole of negativity. You have to stop, literally STOP and think about what is going on and try to capture good in the moment, something you can be thankful for or something that will make you smile. Put yourself in someone else’s shoes or just take a breath and relax.  It’s not easy at first, but practice makes perfect, or at least makes it easier. Because if we are real, and I know I am, we all have knee jerk reactions to circumstances, I am the worse sometimes.  It is normal and that makes us human. However, it’s how we deal with it in the long term that will make us a happier human 😁😜 And trust me when I say I’d rather be happier and carry around that feather than angry and sad and carry around that weighted world any day!

As I wrap this up, I hope you take what I’ve learned and use some of these techniques below to release the negative in your world. They have helped me tremendously and I know they can help you too

  • Mediation
  • Journaling
  • Positive Self Talk (Affirmations)
  • Gratitude
  • Exercise (at least 20 minutes – dance your little hearts out)

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One Thing You Should Stop Consuming NOW, If You Have MS or Similar Autoimmune Disease!

One Thing You Should Stop Consuming NOW, If You Have MS or Similar Autoimmune Disease!

Let’s discuss Ninja community, shall we!! I could literally list about 10-20 different items you should stay away from with you have an auto-immune disease like Multiple Sclerosis. Today I am going to talk about one in particular. So many people use it and sometimes we don’t even realize we do. Fake Sugars. Yep, that is it, FAKE SUGARS.

DISCLAIMER!!! – – I feel the need to state here, I am not a doctor. I can only state my experience with Fake Sugars and what others have told me to validate my experiences. This may or may not be the case with you.

Her are some of the side effects that occur when consuming Fake Sugars (Sucralose and Aspartame most commonly known as Splenda and NutraSweet respectively)

  • Migraines
  • Dizziness
  • Digestive Issues
  • Bloating
  • Tinnitus
  • More Seriously concerns that have not been verified but stated (MS, Lupus, Parkinson’s, Alzheimer’s)

A lot of research done will say no real harm can be found when ingesting these fake sugars. HOWEVER, this is what I do know. Even if they do not cause the aforementioned “more serious concerned’ diseases but you happen to have been diagnosed with one and you get any of the more common side effects, you will more likely than not, have a flair up.

Our bodies are meant to process natural foods, foods that were created of the earth and grown naturally. Over the decades we have become a society of convenience and want everything fast and in a hurry. Our children play less outside and do more on computers and video games. Over time, this has created a society of obesity. As they take away our children’s arts and physical activities from the schools and replace them with the all-powerful technology of the future, it’s becoming more evident that sitting, computing, gaming and going through a drive through has become our day-to-day.

Everyone then wants the quick fix to becoming obese. The fad diet, famous cleanses, and FAKE SUGARS seemed to be the answer. Trust me when I say, it’s not! Unfortunately, you can find these sugars in all kinds of things without even knowing it. It’s in oatmeal, yogurt, snacks, just about anything that says diet or low calorie and a lot that doesn’t advertise at all.

When I would ingest the foods with these sugars my body didn’t process it properly and it ended up confused. I never lost the weight I wanted and I would eat more than I should based on cravings and not feeling full. Those common side effects listed above, I probably had every one of them. And when I do, they trigger my symptoms and make me feel like CRAP! My migraines were so bad I had to take preventative medications just to get through a day. I had more migraines in a month than I didn’t. When I started my healthy life-style change fake sugar was one of the first things I removed from my diet. I immediately noticed a change in my migraines and in my symptoms. Now if I accidentally eat something that has fake sugar in it, without knowing it’s an ingredient, if it’s a large enough portion I will feel it immediately! Everyone may not have the same sensitivity to this as I do, but I have spoken to numerous individuals with MS and other autoimmune diseases that have made healthy life-style changes and they too have seen similar results.

When my body is not “feeling right” and I am feeling “off’ for some reason, I know I attribute it to not eating the way my body is meant to be fueled about 90% of the time. My MS will trigger very shortly afterwards and I know I have to get back on track.

This is not the holy grail of what to do when you have one of these diseases, but I would definitely try it for at least 90 days. It takes your body at least that long to gather it’s senses and start seeing a difference. What could it hurt? I mean, it could lead to a lot of good and if it absolutely does nothing you can return to your old ways!

BONUS INFO: HYDRATE…HYDRATE…HYDRATE…

Our bodies are made up of approximately 70% water. When we are dehydrated our body goes into over drive and we can cause inflammation in certain areas of the body…again causing symptoms in individuals with autoimmune diseases. If you drink a lot of caffine, increase your H2O cup per cup over the daily amount. Your daily amount of water should be approximately ½ your body weight in ounces.

Friends, Family…What Do You See, When You Look At Me?

Friends, Family…What Do You See, When You Look At Me?

Friends/Family, what do you see when you look at me? I bet you don’t see what I saw when I looked in the mirror after I was diagnosed with Relapsing/Remitting Multiple Sclerosis (RRMS).

Let me explain a bit. Once a person has been diagnosed with it can be pretty devastating. The uncertainty that comes along with one of the first things you hear from your doctor, “This disease is incurable” can sit on your mind and heart like a mountain the size of Mount Everest. It can be physically hard to breath. It doesn’t really matter what they say after that sentence… “People live out normal, regular and full lives for the most part. You can live a full and productive life even with the diagnosis. There are therapies out there that will keep the disease from progressing any further. Healthy eating and exercise will help you.” And they say pretty much all of that in one breath! It all sounds like a Charlie Brown teacher talking,
because all anyone usually hears initially is it’s a life sentence with a disease that has symptoms that no one will every really understand unless they have it too. Your symptoms will probably not show like someone else’s because everyone’s disease looks different. OHHHHHHH GREAT! Now I may not even have the same symptoms in common with someone even though we have the SAME disease!!! For good measure, throw in the icing on the cake. There is no real test for MS, sometimes it takes doctors years, and I do mean many years, to get a true diagnosis. So for most of that time people on the outside JUST might think you are faking or you’re a crazy hypochondriac. Welcome to the world of a person who has a functional relapsing/remitting MS diagnosis!!

So I ask what do you see? What do you know? I can’t tell you how many times I have heard someone say, “Well, you look so healthy.” A lot of them who’ve said it know I have MS. I mean, I know I look pretty normal, but that doesn’t mean I feel normal AT ALL. If we could just tell my brain to function properly, so the butterflies would stop the fluttering in the ribs, or the tingling in my face and head would cease. You can’t see the pinching feeling I get on the left side of my back. And the fantabulistic advice I get to take a nap when I’m fatigued. Which by the way, we do want to sleep when we are fatigued but it doesn’t usually help. We aren’t just sleepy, we are chronically fatigued!  The cause is our bodies are not functioning properly. Now from time to time you will see me limp from weakness and I have issues going up and down stairs and for a minute you will “see” me look disabled. Howeverrrrr, this is usually when someone thinks I have been injured and hopes I heal quickly. If that person doesn’t know me, I’m not offended, because I do look injured, but this usually comes from people that know I have MS and that is ever so frustrating. I mean, seriously, you just forget I have MS, because I don’t look like I’m disabled? 

I think its safe to say most people with MS feel like we are trapped in our own bodies and wishing we could rip out of the prison we feel locked in and be the person we use to be before all of this started. When I was first diagnosed I literally felt like I was locked inside a cage looking out the bars. I felt restricted from so many things I was use to doing and not even my family seemed to get it. I couldn’t workout like I use to, I found that eating like I use to make my symptoms worse. I couldn’t get upset and go for a walk alone, or at least it felt that way, because initially I was so symptomatic I was scared I’d get stuck somewhere and couldn’t walk back. Grocery shopping was TERRIBLE, outings with family and freinds were even worse. I needed some type of wheel chair to get around just to shop, theme parks and such were a no go, because the rest-breaks I needed to take were out of control. My friends and family didn’t understand that this disease could lay quietly for days or weeks and then out of the blue a terrible day or few days/weeks would strike and I’d be no good to anyone. They couldn’t quite grasp why at the end of a long work day I didn’t feel like cooking dinner anymore, because I was so worn out. Don’t even mention how long it took them to understand NO, I don’t want fast food in stead of a cooked meal, because it would make me feel worse the next day. I mean to them I looked just like I did a few months ago, what changed so much? I could literally go on about the walls I had to break down just inside my family, and even today I still have to give them little reminders.The good things is we have all had time to adjust on both sides and they get me more and I get them more. But it wasn’t a quick turn-around, it took time. 

My friends and family love me tremendously! But they didn’t understand what I was going through, because they didn’t take the time to really learn about MS or what it really meant for me to have it. This disease takes so many forms and no two look the same. If you know someone who has it, you can’t take for granted the next person will be the same and more than likely they will not. Again, the stories I could tell about what someone can do and you should be able to also or what I can now do, why can’t so-in-so do it too. Its crazy! My daughter was diagnosed with MS at 16 years old, her onset was devastating; however after her symptoms chilled and she was on a therapy, she didn’t see another symptom that she ever told me about until she was in her mid-20s. I think everyone assumed that would be the case for me and honestly I was hoping it would be too. But, that was not the case for me.  I don’t think my family and friends didn’t want to learn about the  disease, but it was more like, “It’s a scary disease and the less we know the safer WE feel.” Some people could say that is selfish, but a lot of times that is a protection mechanism for self.  Now, I can’t say for sure that was exactly what was going through their head, but it’s how I viewed it. The unknown for people just seems easier to cope with if you don’t deal with it completely or know every aspect of it. But what it actually does is make the person who has the diagnosis feel misunderstood, unworthy of compassion, depressed, confused and alone on their journey. (Just saying 💁)

Have you ever seen someone park in a handicap parking spot, they have a placard and have every right to park there.            Then some random person utters the words “They don’t look disabled.” – Insert confused puppy dog head tilt here 🙈 – I get that quiet often. What a person sees when they see me get out of the car, is someone who looks perfectly fine. What they don’t see, know and clearly cannot understand but choose to judge is I may walk into that establishment just fine, but at any given time during my visit, the walk out could be very strenuous. If you know me, you know I’m not one who cares what the average person who knows nothing about me thinks, so I can blow them off. Unfortunately, there are many others who care greatly what others think of them and that small judgmental look or even sometimes comments, because yes sometimes they actually have the audacity to say something out loud, rips a person up on the inside. Remember earlier when I said we sometimes feel like we are trapped in a prison? This would be another reason we just want to be normal again. No one wants to worry about walking in and out of a store, but for some of us, it’s something we have to consider, hence the handicap placard.

I think I should state here, there are individuals who have more severe cases of RRMS, who are not as fortunate I as was to find a way to gain my functionality back and leave the wheel chairs behind.  Due to the severity of their lesions to their myelin sheath (explanation of this in another blog soon to come), they are confined to a wheel chair or use walkers and you can actual see they are disabled. There are also different stages of MS, three others to be exact, and that too is for another blog. But I do not want you to think this is the only stage of MS that exists, but it is the most common stage and most misunderstood.

So as I come to a close, what do you see? What do you know? Have you learned anything? I surely do hope you have! But if not….But if you only take a few things from this blog, take these select tips. 1) It’s very important to take some time to learn about the disease and grasp some understanding of how it is specifically affecting the person you care for AND don’t compare them to someone else who has been diagnosed. 2) Don’t judge a book by its cover when you do not have the answers; what someone is feeling inside may not be seen on the outside. 3) Try to understand we want to be as normal as we once were and we are trying to get to that point, or at least a happy medium. 4) Lastly, I think this is the most important, be patient with the person who’s been diagnosed, we are learning how to deal with this new entrapment for which they have yet to find a cure. There will be good days and there will be bad days. Learn to roll with the punches, much like we have to do! I hope this helps a bit! 

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